How should I start the last blog entry of 2020? Maybe, I should begin by telling you that Alderaan and I are upstairs in my office? He’s in my lap, peeved that I took over the computer chair—which he whole-heartedly believes is his. Or, maybe by noting the weather? Writing something about how it rained Christmas day, but today, the day after the holiday, there are miniscule snowflakes drifting earthward?
Should I admit to having the post-holiday blues? Because I do.
Christmas, in our house, was warm and happy. Due to our competing work schedules, I don’t often have the opportunity to spend an entire day with my husband. The fact that we were able to spend Christmas Day together was wonderful. Magical. Fun.
Our boys woke me up at 4:12am, not because of the allure of Christmas presents, but because there was a stiff competition as to who was going to cuddle Mommy. Alderaan, having slept on my pillow all night, immediately became unhappy when Berkley made an early morning appearance. In fact, Alderaan lost his composure completely when Berkley had the audacity to jump on the bed, spread out beside Mommy, and then put his head on Mom’s chest.
Alderaan jumped off the bed, landing loudly on the floor, and stormed out the bedroom door. He came back though, moving silently through the shadows, and managing to climb atop the bedside shelving unit without being detected. From there, he started swiping knick-knacks onto the floor.
Nothing was broken…but it’s impossible to go back to sleep when you’re worried that a picture frame might be the next thing to be knocked down.
The entire household was up after that—Christmas lights and music were turned on. Dishes were washed and the furbabies were fed. Stockings were unpacked, and my husband and I were blessed by the sight of our furry children enjoying their presents—bones, a mega-sized tennis ball, and a cat toy that resembles a flattened mouse:
These weren’t the only presents given out. Twenty-minutes away, my parents and brother were unwrapping the gifts that we had chosen for them.
I have made a tradition of hand-painting Christmas ornaments. In past years, these typically consisted of pre-made wood or ceramic shapes that I would add acrylic color to. This year—for reasons that even I don’t know—I chose to paint scenes on wood slices. It’s a time-consuming process that my carpel tunnel resents. The results, however, far outweigh the cost. The ability to share how much I love and appreciate someone through art, is absolutely worth it.
I painted a family of snowmen for my mom and a masked polar bear for my brother. Although I personalized these ornaments in subtle ways, neither of these designs were 100% mine. Pinterest is an artist’s treasure trove (if you don’t have an account, I highly recommend getting one)!
Initially, I had planned to paint a woodland scene for my father, the woodcutter. I sketched a few ideas on loose-leaf paper, but it didn’t ‘fit’. I needed to paint something more personal, something with meaning. I soon found myself trolling my brother’s Facebook pictures, searching for photos of our father’s barn.
I tear up whenever I think about this barn. You see, Dear Readers, this is the barn that my father designed in 2010 while I was lying in an ICU bed. I was thankfully unconscious for most of my ICU stay, but I can remember my Dad sitting in the chair beside my bed, sketching in a little black notebook.
He talked to me about this barn of paper and pencil lead.
The dream of it somehow infiltrated the darkness—because there was so much darkness during those days. I have never felt more alone than when I was unconscious in that hospital bed, heavily sedated, relying on machines to keep me alive. To keep me here.
I know…2010 should feel like a decade ago…but when you have Post-traumatic Stress Disorder…it was yesterday.
To see that dream-barn come to fruition—that’s hope manifested, Dear Readers. That’s the reminder that all things are possible through love and faith. It’s why I cried while painting this ornament:
It pains me that I didn’t get to see my dad’s reaction when he read the back of it:
Because, you know, stupid, but necessary, COVID-restrictions/guidelines.
Love, at times, can feel so good and yet so overwhelming. It is in these instances that it produces both gratitude and grief. I feel this same mixture of emotions when I listen to Christmas Eve sermons or to faith-based songs like Jars of Clay’s “Bethlehem Town”.
I feel it, too, as tears slip down my cheeks while writing this entry—and Alderaan comes to my rescue, curling up in my lap.
Thank you for joining me here today, Dear Readers. I hope, if you encounter the post-holiday blues, that happy memories fill your heart with warmth. I hope that a temperamental cat comes along to cheer you up. I hope we don’t have to wait until Christmas 2021 to say “I love you”, “you’re a blessing to me”, and “it helped”. Sending prayers, love and light your way.
With Love & Gratitude,
Laura
You must be logged in to post a comment.